 When they sent Martha Stewart to prison, I knew right then and there that “times-are-a-changing. They sent a middle aged white (FEMALE) cultural icon to prison - yeeeaaaah Kim's ass was grass!" C Love* I will admit….for a min…I was being insensitive….thinking about how pictures might get out about what she looks like in her prison garb or stories about how liquid (puss) oozes out of her face tubes at night...LOL!, but then it got VERY real to me. Another woman going to prison. DAMN! All my silly thoughts and chuckles quickly turned to sincere prayers for her and her family. I can only imagine the drastic turn her life has (their lives have) taken during the last year. People were on TV and in radio interviews (including so called friends) talking about how stupid she was for not talking (or lying) without regard for her feelings or without really knowing what was going on in her mind. I can't say I've ever heard her really talk about this issue directly- so who knows why she did what she did. Then to have a supposed "TELL ALL" DVD to come out (hosted by none other than a former dependent Lil Cease) ....that had to be another blow during one of the roughest patches in her life. I would of had to go on a radio show or something and air some people out....but NO she was the picture of decorum. So prim and proper all the while prolly sick on the inside. Watching her story unfold has made me really look at her in a new light. I always viewed her as a “ryda”….look at how she got down for Biggie- “wife be damned!”, but I really forgot…that she is real person underneath all that make-up and plastic. The pictures of her coming out of the courthouse and the devastation I read across her face were heartbreaking. She wasn’t LiL Kim…she was Kim Jones. She wasn't an internationally known rapper...she was "Kim" my next door neighbor growing up. Prison truly is an equalizer. Her story, like so many other women is not that uncommon. There are so many women that are in prison because they held something for their men… There are so many women sitting by the phone accepting those expensive ass calls.... There are so many that get "caught up" only to later become the fall gal. The latter is the saddest. How is it possible to get more time being the girlfriend of a drug dealer than being the actual dealer? (Read "STAND BY YOUR MAN" ) I’m tired of reading books about women that stand by their men. I am looking for that one that tells it like it really is out here. I am all for supporting your partner, but I am not sure that the really necessary message to young women is being expressed. Without getting reeeeaaally deep….I can’t really sum up all my feelings on this issue. As a woman who has “held” a man down….I tell women to worry about themselves first. Don’t put your self in danger or debt trying help someone else because there is no guarantee that a man (or woman) will do it for you. But I also know that you can't tell a person this....this is a realization that one must sadly come to own their own. REAL TALK! * My message to men: stop laying guilt trips on women. Jail is supposed to be solitary....time to get your mind right. If you don't want to go to prison stop breaking the law. Her willingness to “ride” with you is no real indication of how good of a person she is….stop being selfish and self-centered. Start being stand-up citizens and start really taking care of us. Women...if you love your man...leave him alone if he wants to ONLY sell drugs. He will eventually end up in jail or dead (and you will be alone anyway). Long gone are the days where women can say…”I was ignorant to what was going on around me”….”I don’t know where my husband works”. A conspiracy charge oftentimes carries more time that if you would have actually been charged with committing the crime yourself. *
I realize that Kim's situation was a lil different, but the code she lives by (which wouldn't allow her to snitch) is very similar to that of people that are "from there". Is it right- yes! absolutely!....just wasted in this particular situation. They didn't deserve your loyalty, Kim...MOST don't deserve the loyalty, but we usually don't realize it until its too late.
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A good friend of mine is an acquaintance of hers and she has been to Baltimore on several occasions just to hang out. Her shouting out B-more in “Lighters Up” was real…not just something to say b/c it rhymed. So b/c of that alone....I have to show her love and let her know that people are still out here thinking about her and praying for her. God Speed, Kim! * Hip-Hop Artist Lil’ Kim Countdown to Lockdown
Just when we were getting use to not hearing her name every 5 minutes (she has been locked down since September 19th 2006), ‘Lil’ Kim Countdown to Lockdown’ the chronicles of hip-hop rap artist Lil' Kim’s last two weeks of freedom as she tied up her business affairs, said goodbye to friends and made peace with herself as she prepared to serve her 366-day prison sentence is set to air on BET Thursday, March 9th.
The series consists of 6 episodes put forth in half hour shows. BET and production partner Edmonds Entertainment deliver full access to the NY hip-hop rap artist known as the ‘Queen Bee’s, aka Lil' Kim; life and her entourage as she paints the town twenty-four hours a day attending sexy fashion shows, star-studded parties, music video shoots, and glamorous shopping trips.
The hip-hop rapper Lil' Kim then begins the physical transformation to becoming Kimberly Jones, peeling off the layers of hair extensions, acrylic nails and stage make-up. Final destination: the penitentiary, where Kimberly turns herself in to authorities. This is Kim's real life with all of its glamour, drama, comedy and tragedy.
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I feel you, even though I'm far from a lil kim fan but I wouldn't wish jail on anyone..